They also may have a lot of questions and may not know where to get accurate answers. Kids often seek out their friends more and more and put a lot of energy into their social lives. However, kids still want the approval and guidance of their parents. Ten-year-olds tend to feel very close to their parents, siblings, and extended family. At age 10, you can expect your child to have more complex feelings and to have more control over emotions.
However, they may also struggle with keeping them in check at times. You may see them becoming more skilled at handling conflict and negotiating solutions with friends. At the same time, you may see some volatility in their friendships, feelings, and interests. They may have frequent squabbles with siblings, fighting especially with younger siblings.
Ten-year-olds have an improving ability to sense the emotions of others and to read facial and body language. Ten-year-olds often cope with cliques, as an insider, an outsider, or both, on a daily basis. At 10, kids may become very attached to their friends. Other friendships tend to be based on mutual interests rather than close, personal feelings. Peer pressure can play a big role in the social relationships of most year-olds.
At this age, kids will be eager to fit in by wearing the right clothes, listening to the right music, or liking and disliking the same things. At 10, social skills are developing rapidly and kids become attuned to what their friends think, say, and do.
Acceptance by the peer group is a critical step that seems to have a strong effect on the next level of development. Poor peer acceptance at age 10 is a strong predictor of behavioral and emotional problems in adolescence. Another factor that can play a role in mood swings is the stress that a typical year-old may be under as they try to deal with all the physical changes and other shifts in their life. A year-old child may be trying to keep up with ever-more difficult schoolwork, working to fit in and socialize with friends, coping with an influx of hormones, and dealing with the physical transitions of growing up.
Sometimes, kids this age even refuse to go to school. Children this age may also begin to place more emphasis on physical appearance and may want to fit in and conform with peers more than they used to. Body image issues can also develop at this age in some children. Be a good role model when it comes to body image, physical activity, and self-acceptance. You can expect to see an increased desire for privacy in children this age. Ten-year-old children are becoming more aware of their bodies and are more likely to want privacy when bathing and dressing.
They are also more likely to pay attention to things like clothes and hairstyles and what their friends are thinking and wearing. They are able to take on more responsibility, including tackling more things independently like chores, schoolwork, and using their time wisely.
They will still often need supervision with some tasks but it's important to support their emerging autonomy by letting them take on new challenges when they are able to do so. Cultivate your parent-child connection by spending quality time with your child and listening to them as much or more than you talk. Let them know you love and value them no matter what, says Dr. Be their safe space for sharing their triumphs and challenges. So, let them vent and be angry or sad, but still expect reasonable behavior and follow up with related consequences, as needed.
Have household rules with set consequences for infractions. Talk to your child about what goals they want to reach and the freedoms they would like, suggests Dr. Make agreements about what they need to do to achieve these aims. Allow your child to have some privacy with friends. Give them the space they need to forge these social bonds and try to take their burgeoning autonomy personally, says Dr. They want to protect themselves from being embarrassed in front of their peers and often find parents embarrassing," explains Dr.
As parents, aim to provide autonomy support, advises Dr. Set your child up for academic success by encouraging good study habits. But if they're totally at a loss, then you need to give them more support," Dr. Pressman suggests. If they are struggling, you might even sit by them to teach them, but don't ever do their work for them, says Dr. Instead, it can help to establish a homework time and a designated homework area.
Create rules, such as no TV during homework time, that will help your child succeed. Teach your child how to deal with uncomfortable emotions , including frustration, anger, disappointment, guilt, anxiety, sadness, and boredom, advises Dr. Help them name and talk about their feelings and offer ideas for how to cope, such as mindfulness, exercise, venting, brainstorming possible solutions, yoga, or calling a friend.
As your year-old grows in maturity, it is natural for them to gain more responsibility and autonomy. Still, they need parental oversight in order to keep them safe, says Dr. Be sure to know who their friends are, what video games, social media, and movies they are seeing, and where they are at all times.
Allow them to try out greater freedoms, such as a later bedtime or walking to a friend's house, but be ready to pull back if things don't go well or they need more supervision. So, be sure to monitor your child's use of social media, as well as their access to the internet, generally. Talk to your child about peer pressure, their changing body, mental health, healthy sleep habits, nutritious food, social media, and other social issues.
Let them know you are always there for them to talk about anything. It's typical for year-olds to occasionally experience moodiness or have trouble regulating their emotions, particularly once puberty starts. But if your child becomes overly emotional, withdrawn, aggressive, or has angry outbursts that interfere with their relationships, it could be a sign of a bigger problem, such as depression or anxiety.
Children of this age also develop physically at different rates. Early or late puberty, particularly in girls, may lead to an especially high risk for body image issues and eating disorders. Always emphasize the importance of health and function over appearance, says Dr. If you notice issues around food, exercise, or negative body image, contact their pediatrician or a therapist for help and guidance. If you are worried that your child is not developing as they should, start by reminding yourself that now is a time of transition for a year-old.
There is not a set place as to where your child should be. While some will be toying with makeup, social media, and sports, others may be happy playing with dolls or reading comic books, says Dr. Both are fine and perfectly healthy.
If you are still concerned that your child is lagging, speak with your pediatrician. They can assess your child's development and refer you to the appropriate specialist if needed. Age 10 is a time of big, sometimes wonderful, sometimes bumpy, transitions for your child. Aim to support your child by keeping the lines of communication open and making quality family time a priority.
As much as your child is growing and becoming more independent, they also need the support and structure provided at home. Enjoy this time of change for your child, while also being there to offer guidance and limits when needed. She's also a psychotherapist, international bestselling author and host of the The Verywell Mind Podcast. Get expert tips to help your kids stay healthy and happy.
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Sex Roles: A Journal of Research. Timing of puberty in boys and girls: Implications for population health. Violence: Exposure to violent media content can encourage and increase aggressive behavior. There's a whole range of content that kids may encounter during this period. During the early part of this age range, kids especially girls tend to prefer content with lots of "relational aggression," such as gossiping, social exclusion, and put-downs.
Consider using such content as a way to discuss avoiding drama and maintaining good friendships. More realistic and more interactive forms of media violence, such as first-person shooter games, may have the most negative effects. Portrayals of violence should show the consequences of subsequent pain and suffering, not triumph.
Sexualized violence is never OK but is prevalent in many horror and slasher films. Call out such content and discuss why it's a problem. Consider discussing real-world consequences of mean or aggressive behaviors, both for the victim and the aggressor. Representations and discussions of violent situations can now be more nuanced, as preteens are starting to think in abstract and ethical terms.
At this age, many children can grapple with historical contexts of violence, including violence experienced by particular social groups. Know your child, talk about scary content they may be watching, and help them make reasonable choices. Children this age can experience empathic fear for a character, particularly in content that seems realistic to them. They can generally deal with non-abusive emotional conflict and mild horror so long as there's resolution.
Preteens may also be more likely to encounter and be upset by news stories, including abductions and relatively global threats such as terrorism or climate change. As at all ages, it is important to listen to your child's concerns rather than mocking or belittling him or her.
If your child does get frightened or upset, coping strategies can include discussion and truthful reassurances as well as a hug and distraction. Again, it's important to know your child. Nudity and simulated sex are not age-appropriate. Avoid disrespectful portrayals of characters as sexual objects or as sexual aggressors.
Humor that relies on these themes isn't appropriate. If you encounter such depictions, talk about why they're problematic. When kids see something sexual in the media, adults can use it as a way to talk about healthy and responsible sexual behavior.
For example, consider at least occasionally pointing out when characters don't discuss contraception and approving of instances when they do. By 10 and 12, many kids seek out information about sex and contraception, and they often do so from magazines, films, TV, and websites.
Providing reliable, accurate content can help prevent misinformation and confusion. Language: One of the ways that preteens push the envelope is with "forbidden" language. Race-, gender-, and sexuality-based slurs are not appropriate. Consumerism and commercialism: Preteens often take comfort in looking cool -- and that means they often associate positive emotions with certain brands.
It's a good idea to point out strategic product placement especially in digital media such as apps. Help kids learn more about the tricks that advertisers use to make viewers want to buy their products. Talk to them about lighting, music, camera angles, etc.
Parents and kids can also discuss the food advertised in commercials and clarify their own family's food choices. Any adults abusing substances also should face consequences. Humor associated with being drunk or high isn't age-appropriate. Be particularly aware of the high level of alcohol advertising during sports programming, and consider fast-forwarding or muting such content if possible. Research suggests that heavy exposure to alcohol ads in magazines or on TV predicts the likelihood of drinking during preadolescence and adolescence.
Adults can begin conversations about substance use and abuse in the media and point out the differences between reality and media glamour. Now is the time for parents to start making clear what kind of behavior is acceptable in their families. Parents' Ultimate Guide to Support our work!
How We Rate and Review. See all rating. What's age-appropriate for to year-olds? What's going on at age 10—12? What's age-appropriate at age 10—12? Educational value: At this age, children have access to a wide range of tools to learn about whatever topics interest them.
Well-chosen, high-quality media can stimulate broad thinking and new interests. Guide preteens toward content that shows a diversity of experience and ethnicity as well as portrayals of history and projections of the future. Also, seek content that builds on what kids are learning in school. Kids can hone specific cognitive skills by playing some types of video games. For example, games that require children to solve spatial puzzles or navigate mazes may enhance visual-spatial skills.
Their ability to comprehend longer stories with implicit moral lessons continues to develop over the course of this period, so at least early on the most effective educational lessons will be focused and explicit.
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